Month: December 2013

Building self confidence

Self confidence is a feeling or consciousness of ones power, value and ability to succeed. Self confidence isn’t something you wake up and possess automatically; it has to be built day by day. Below are some of the strategies “secrets” to building your confidence:

Before getting someone to appreciate you and what you stand for, you have to appreciate yourself first. You need to see yourself as confident, wonderful, strong etc and others will see you the same way. You have to be confident in who you are if not it would be difficult for the other person to have confidence in you. To build your own confidence, you have to know your worth and this can be done by recalling your past success, be aware of your unique skills, loving relationships and you’ll be amazed at how much you have going for you and how priceless you are. (Note: do not dwell on your past glory! Just use them as pointers to what you are capable of doing in the future)

Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with people. Make significant improvements be bathing, wearing clean and neatly ironed clothes, smelling nice and dressing responsible and decent. Your appearance is the first impression the other person has of you. Strive to make a positive lasting impression.

One of the greatest ways to get a person to appreciate you and develop confidence in you is through the way you carry yourself. How do you walk? How do you talk? As a matter of fact, one of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about themselves is to examine the way they walk. Is it slow? Tired? Painful? Energetic?. The moment you step into a room, your carriage is what draws the attention to you. By having a good posture, standing straight, keeping your head up, and making a good eye contact, you’ll make a positive confident impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

Most times, when we think negatively about ourselves we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. Refuse to engage in back stabbing gossip and make efforts to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become liked and build self confidence. People who are bitter, jealous, negative and gossip a lot are those who have problems with themselves. Remember, you cannot give out what you don’t have. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

You should try to sit in the front during programs maybe in the school, meeting and public assemblies. Around the world, most people prefer the back seat because they are afraid of being noticed or think that is what make you “cool”(Big boys and big girls). But that is a lie, sitting at the back most time depicts lack of confidence. However, by deciding to sit at the front row, you can get over any irrational fear you feel and build your self confidence.

By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts and recognised as a leader by your peers. The more positive contributions you give, the more rewards, respects and recognition you get.

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Motivational quotes on SELF-CONFIDENCE

Self confidence starts by loving yourself completely( loving your flaws, strengths, dreams and hopes) and developing a habit of positive thinking. While some of us are born with self-confidence, most of us have to work at it. Building self confidence is a day to day work so don’t expect to see the change in one day. Let these motivational quotes boost your self-confidence and help you love/believe in yourself more.

“When someone tells me “no,” it doesn’t mean I can’t do it, it simply means I can’t do it with them.”
Karen E. Quinones Miller

“Believe you can and you’re halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
Lao Tzu

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

“As long as you look for someone else to validate who you are by seeking their approval, you are setting yourself up for disaster. You have to be whole and complete in yourself. No one can give you that. You have to know who you are – what others say is irrelevant.”
Nic Sheff

“With realisation of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.”
Dalai Lama

“A great figure or physique is nice, but it’s self-confidence that makes someone really sexy.”
Vivica Fox

“Self-confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.”
Samuel johnson

“I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence, but it comes from within. It is there all the time.”
Anna Freud

“Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence”
Vince Lombardi

Confidence is a habit that can be developed by acting as if you already had the confidence you desire to have.”
Brian Tracy

“The best way to gain self-confidence is to do what you are afraid to do.”
Author Unknown

“To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. “If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now.”
Alan Cohen

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
Oscar Wilde

“Don’t you dare, for one more second, surround yourself with people who are not aware of the greatness that you are.”
Jo Blackwell-Preston

“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.”
Marilyn Monroe

“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.”
Harvey Fierstein

“Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?”
Brigham Young

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INTERVIEW: Meet the next great saxophonist of our time-Gbaja Olaoluwa Samuel

Meet the next great saxophonist in Nigeria. His name is Gbaja Olaoluwa Samuel but fondly known as Ola-sax(The SAX-LORD). A 19 year old student with a unique talent of playing instruments. He is a professional with the drum, the piano and now “the saxophone”. Apart from playing instruments, he is also sings. During his pursuit for excellence, he encountered a lot of discouragements but none kept him down. Today, he is worthy of celebration.
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Interview by: Ibiere pa-briggs

What was your first song ever sung?
The way you love me by Ola-sax

When did you first start singing?
Six years ago at church. Being a pastor’s son, I was in the choir.

Is your family in support of this?
Yes they are. Though it took time to convince them

What genre of music do you sing?
Gospel and jazz

What’s the first five songs on your playlist?
Femi kuti “africa”, B.J-Sax “Yaya”, Yemi-Sax, Kunle Ajayi, Mike Aremu

A celebrity you would love to feature with?
Yemi sax

Do you compose your songs yourself?
Yes, but sometimes I play popular tunes at social gatherings and for entertainment too.

Tell us about your first performance?
Wow! It was a great day. I was so scared I even went off-key but I covered up with dance skills and other special-skills I had. After the show I was given 500naira. I was so discouraged but my brother encouraged me and said one day I’d be the one to pay people. And I have been working towards that dream for sometime now. it’s beginning to manifest

What messages do your often pass across with your songs?
That God is the best person to praise and stick with because he has too much benefits than you using your talent for any other purpose. He recently provided a Brazilian White-Gold sax for me without spending a kobo or travelling to brazil.

Favourite musicians home and abroad?
Bee-jay sax, Mike-aremu, Kunle Ajayi, Yemi sax among others.

Favourite song of all time?
YAYA by Bee-jay sax

Embarrassing moment
When I used to practice, people would always complain about the noise. One day a neighbour came to my house, said am a disaster and I should give my Saxophone to a beggar on the road to beg for alms that I can never make a living/name out of it.

Why did you choose music? What inspires you to sing?
Because I discovered that I was so good with instruments. I was the first and only drummer in my church before others join. I also play the keyboard and finally my saxophone is what I major in right now. I just know God put this values in me and I must project them .
My inspiration comes from the holy spirit.

Make a wish
I wish Gospel artistes in Nigeria were respected and given the same rating with secular artistes. Because our Industry is growing and we are actually doing great things not only in this country but outside too.

Tell us about your aspirations in life and the legacy you want to be known for?
I would love to be the greatest saxophonist in my time and be a living and gone Legend. I Want to be a minister of the gospel, doing great things for Him and have lots of awards to His glory.

From the Representeens team, we wish you a successful journey to greatness.

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